Anxiety & Stress

If you find yourself overly-stress, overly-worried and more hurried about life than you need to be then there is a good chance I can help.

My assumption is that you probably have some good reasons to be anxious, stressed and frazzled.  However, I also know that when we humans get uptight, anxious and stressed out we often find ourselves on auto-pilot, doing the same things over and over, even when they’re not helping.

Our automatic, reactive ways of coping often backfire on us and get us further stuck in the problem.  When the pressure is on our ability to hand stress goes way down and we tend to resort to two main options…

  • Try to Control It
  • Avoid It

Some examples of controlling or avoiding uncomfortable emotions and thoughts can look like the following:

  • being stuck anticipating & planning for the future
  • blaming yourself
  • distracting or ‘zoning out’
  • withdrawing & opting out of things that will likely make your life better or that you “should” do
  • using drugs/alcohol to get away from the stress of it all
  • perfectionism
  • avoiding conflict but then being resentful later
  • pretending like nothing is wrong to others

I help people with these types of problems with a modern, evidenced-based type of therapy called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).    I’m confident that I have a good chance of helping you for 3 reasons…

1. We would approach your distress differently than you might be thinking.

If you are reading this page, then your attempts to get rid of it so far haven’t made it so you can move on with your life yet.  The truth is that the human brain is not created well to deal with internal distress well.  Instead the brain is great at making sure you are kept safe from external threats (a bear or anything else that might hurt you).  You can’t run away from or defeat your anxiety through fighting it, the way you might deal with a bear.  Instead, you have the option of learning different skills on how to change your relationship to this internal distress of stress and anxiety.

2. There are lots of scientific studies that support that ACT is an effective treatment for anxiety.
3. It’s worked well for lots of people that I’ve worked with, including severe anxiety.

 

My style of working with people is a ‘hands on’ approach that involves learning & practicing new skills to address anxiety rather than ‘just talking about’ the problem.  It is possible to gradually let go of these reactive habits, and replace them with wiser, more effective responses to stressful thoughts, feelings and circumstances.

More About ACT

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT (pronounced as in the word ‘act’), is a modern, evidenced-based therapy that combines the most effective approaches of CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) with the mindfulness-based techniques that have been proven effective through neurological research.

The aim of ACT is to help you live a vital, meaningful life, while effectively handling the pain that inevitably comes your way.  This is done through learning and practicing the skills of being more aware, more open and more engaged with what is most important to you in life.  These are very different from the commonsense strategies suggested in most self-help books.

It’s an active therapy. It’s effective therapy .  It’s meaningful therapy. 

If you are interested in possibly working with me,

then let’s set up either a free 15-minute phone consultation or an initial intake appointment.

It’s important that you can connect with and trust your therapist.  The only way to really know that is by sitting across from them and giving it a try.  So schedule here if you want to get a feel for who I am and how I can help you.

It’s a courageous act to ask for help and to get real with yourself in order to move forward.